I'm almost 7 years into this journey and I want to tell you, there is hope. It does get better. One day you wake up and finally come to grips with the fact that your honey isn't coming back and that he/she would want you to live the life he/she cannot live. In the last few years instead of focusing on the loss of my husband, I've focused on the blessings. I've focused on the fact that I was so blessed to have loved and been loved. I've focused on the good times that we had and how much we gave to each other. I've focused on how special our relationship was and what we accomplished together through my daughter. I've focused on moving forward and enjoying life--travelling, loving on people, appreciating my family and friends, and doing God's work. I've also focused on being open to love again.
At around my 2.5 year mark I started dating a good man who treated me wonderfully. We had a lot of great times together but almost two years later we broke up. I wanted marriage, he did not though I was led to believe all along he wanted marriage. So we parted ways and it was best for both of us. Although it didn't work out, I'm grateful that God sent a gentle man to me as the first man to open up and love again. I'm now in a different place. I have a new wonderful man in my life who loves me unconditionally. A man who loves my family and doesn't judge me or my family but loves them regardless. A man who sees the perfections in my imperfections and who loves me like God wants a man to love a woman--sacrificially. I remember after my last break-up that the Lord spoke to my spirit and told me "A man who loves you will die for you like I died for you. He will give of himself sacrificially, die to his desires and love you unconditionally. He will pursue you as I pursued you and gave my life for you". Well needless to say I've since used that as my barometer and God has blessed me with a wonderful man. Because of fear of being hurt again, I tried everything to push this man away but the harder I pushed the more firm was his stand. He would tell me, "Do what you want, I'm not going anywhere. I know you are my gift from God". I thank God that he was strong and patient with me because he truly is such a blessing. I am hopeful that we will have a future together but ultimately it's in God's hands.
So please, don't give up hope. If you are a widow(er), keep your focus on God, seek His guidance for your life, work on your healing, on moving forward and on enjoying the life that you've been blessed with because your honey would want you to live for him/her. In due time, God will bless you with someone again. Ask the Lord to help you to trust Him and to help you open up your heart again. Your love would want you to move on in this life and moving on doesn't mean you no longer love your honey because true love never dies.
My husband will always hold that special place in my heart. I will always adore him and treasure what we had but God has shown me just as He is able to love me and all His children, I can also love again. Loving again is wonderful so please don't lose hope.
God bless you!!!!!!!!!
At around my 2.5 year mark I started dating a good man who treated me wonderfully. We had a lot of great times together but almost two years later we broke up. I wanted marriage, he did not though I was led to believe all along he wanted marriage. So we parted ways and it was best for both of us. Although it didn't work out, I'm grateful that God sent a gentle man to me as the first man to open up and love again. I'm now in a different place. I have a new wonderful man in my life who loves me unconditionally. A man who loves my family and doesn't judge me or my family but loves them regardless. A man who sees the perfections in my imperfections and who loves me like God wants a man to love a woman--sacrificially. I remember after my last break-up that the Lord spoke to my spirit and told me "A man who loves you will die for you like I died for you. He will give of himself sacrificially, die to his desires and love you unconditionally. He will pursue you as I pursued you and gave my life for you". Well needless to say I've since used that as my barometer and God has blessed me with a wonderful man. Because of fear of being hurt again, I tried everything to push this man away but the harder I pushed the more firm was his stand. He would tell me, "Do what you want, I'm not going anywhere. I know you are my gift from God". I thank God that he was strong and patient with me because he truly is such a blessing. I am hopeful that we will have a future together but ultimately it's in God's hands.
So please, don't give up hope. If you are a widow(er), keep your focus on God, seek His guidance for your life, work on your healing, on moving forward and on enjoying the life that you've been blessed with because your honey would want you to live for him/her. In due time, God will bless you with someone again. Ask the Lord to help you to trust Him and to help you open up your heart again. Your love would want you to move on in this life and moving on doesn't mean you no longer love your honey because true love never dies.
My husband will always hold that special place in my heart. I will always adore him and treasure what we had but God has shown me just as He is able to love me and all His children, I can also love again. Loving again is wonderful so please don't lose hope.
God bless you!!!!!!!!!